1. A Clear Head - Control Stimuli
Agency Took Kit is on page 58.
2. The Company You Keep - Associate Selectively.
You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you'd like to be — people who inspire you to learn and do things you might not believe are possible. Being around such people will move you in this direction. And the most important people by far in terms of this are your closest friends, family members, or your life partner.
- Address negative, unhealthy patterns in relationships early. And if it can't be fixed — move on.
- When other, nearby, people are displaying strong emotions, our brains will mimic them automatically.
- Keep in mind that stress and anxiety is contagious. Pay attention to when your mood suddenly shifts for the worse. Did you 'catch' something from someone who you might want to avoid in the future?
- You are not obliged to give yourself over to others — not your time, not your energy, not your happiness. Give yourself permission to question or say no to situations that put you down.
- Say no, and do not apologize for it.
- Don't engage in negative interactions if you don't want to.
- You are the average of the people you spend time with.
- Don't allow online interactions to become a substitute for in-person time with the people you most care about.
- You need to be able to change your mind about people.
3. Respect Your Body - Move.
- "When your body is out of balance, your mind is out of balance".
- Try to move at least every 30 minutes.
4. Position Yourself As A Learner - Position Yourself As A Learner
- Be open minded.
- Assume that others know something that you do not.
- Have a growth mindset.
- Mistakes are part of learning and are critical for success.
- Recovering from setbacks is essential.
- "With technology, to position yourself as a learner, you also have to position yourself as your own teacher".
- "For an entrepreneur, 90 percent of what you need to know is in somebody else's head" — Waverly Deutsch.
- Ask people about their thought process. How they came to that conclusion.
- Taking physical notes help you prevent your mind from roaming during meetings and class.
- Be very mindful of where you get your news from.
Try not to get it from Facebook (and other social media) ads.
Use reputable sources - as well as your critical thinking skills. Challenge your assumptions.
- Learn from authority figures without blindly following them.
- Do not one-up the person you have decided to learn from. Do not talk about yourself.
- "The beautiful thing about learning is that nobody can take it away from you." — B. B. King.
- Take in a wide range of information and viewpoints to expand your learning.
- Learn to fail.
- Speak less, listen more. Ask questions.
- Get feedback.
5. Stable and Grounded - Manage Your Emotions and Beliefs
- "Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not." — William James.
7. Reflect, Decide, Act With Agency - Deliberate, Then Act